Tameka Foster isn't happy with ex-husband Usher following their firstborn son's pool incident. The 42-year-old celebrity stylist filed legal documents in Fulton County, Ga., asking for an emergency custody hearing on Tuesday, Aug. 6.
According to reports, Foster, 42, is demanding custody of their sons, Usher Raymond V, 5, and Naviyd Ely Raymond, 4. She claims that Usher, 34, who currently has primary custody, is allowing other unfit people to care for their children, thereby and creating an unsafe environment. (Usher filed for divorce from Foster in June 2009 after nearly two years of marriage. Since then, the two have had an ongoing, heated custody battle over their children.)
The filing comes one day after their son Usher was hospitalized after nearly drowning in the singer's pool on Aug. 5. TMZ reported that the little boy got his arm stuck in the drain while being watched by his aunt. After struggling to free his arm, he was given CPR and admitted to the intensive care unit. Usher was not home at the time, but arrived in time to ride in the ambulance with his son.
In July 2012, Foster's 11-year-old son Kile Glover, Usher's stepson, was fatally struck in the head by a jet ski. "I'm still in shock," Foster told Entertainment Tonight in September 2012. "I think this will probably be the greatest pain I will ever experience, losing him. But, it gave me strength beyond measure and it made me determined to fight for my other [children]."
Marital bliss can wait, according to a July 2013 study that says women are waiting longer to tie the knot-if at all-these days.
Not long ago in the 1950s, approximately 65 percent of women over the age of 15 were married. Now, researchers at the National Center for Family and Marriage Research (NCFMR) say that statistic has dramatically changed. Less than half of all women in the U.S. are married today, making this the lowest percentage since the turn of the century.
"Although the vast majority of Americans say they want to get married, fewer are actually getting (and staying) married," says Susan Brown, co-director at NCFMR. "Indeed, more than 10 percent of baby boomers have never married, and at this point, it is unlikely that they ever will." This trend, says Brown, is one we can expect to see continue with younger generations, too.
Interestingly enough, if you go back even further in time, the marriage rate in 1920 was three times as high as it is today, indicating that more and more women see marriage as just one of an array of options now-even if they want to have children.
"Career options and goals are more available now, and for many women, these have taken on equal priority so that the question is more one of timing today," explains Jane Greer, Ph.D., a marriage and relationship psychotherapist in New York City. "The urgency and rush to start a family early is no longer the norm. Many women can pursue their careers and postpone having a family. Because there are so many more options for older women to get pregnant and have children, it's enabled them to balance their careers. Also, many women are opting to become single mothers. In short, marriage is no longer necessary to secure a family."
Not only are fewer women choosing to walk down the aisle, but those who do are waiting until they're older. According to the study, a woman's average age at first marriage is now the highest it's been since the early 1900s, at nearly 27 years old.
The reason for this boils down to our own expectations about what needs to be in place before we marry, explains Brown. "These days, couples treat marriage as a capstone experience, a way to signify to others that they have made it," she says. "Many hold the view that marriage is attainable only after one has completed their education, gotten a stable job, paid off their debts and is on the road to buying a home."
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